Sunday, December 20, 2009

December 20th 2009

I've been wasting a lot of time recently lying to myself.

I'm living a life that I can't adequately justify.

I love a boy who doesn't love me, knowing full well that what I need and deserve is a man; not a boy who can't make up his mind.

I'm in a relationship with a boy who is almost entirely wrong for me for no other reason that I can see but that he at least is committed to the idea of loving me. Though he doesn't even begin to understand the ways that I need to be loved.

The last thing I need is a relationship. The very last thing. Boy #2 makes me feel unattractive and inferior. Boy #1 makes me feel a lot of things that I wish I could forget.

I've alienated friends and through this relationship with Boy #2 have made a rift between me and my family.

I don't know where I'm going. I don't know how to fix this other than to just give up on everything and try to start over. All I know is that I can't do this anymore. I really can't. As trite as it sounds, I just can't do this.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

December 2nd 2009

I think if I could tell anyone anything it would be to never waste time with those who only pretend to love. It is one of the cruelest things humans do to one another, to feign affection because it’s easier than getting to the truth.

Don’t invest too much in those who don’t appreciate you. They will never understand your intricacies and therefore do not deserve to see them.

Run as fast and as far as you can from those who love you only when it’s convenient. This is the nearly the same as the first thing I mentioned. It is merely a pale blue on a spectrum of cruelty. Love is quite inconvenient. And you are worth that inconvenience.

Never be offended at the truth of someone not loving you. It’s neither your fault nor theirs. It’s just the truth. This is why you must guard your heart and not rush in thinking it could be love when it is not.

Don’t try to change the person you are with. Deal with his or her failings if you indeed love them. Trying to change them to meet your very likely to be unreasonable expectations will only disappoint you and breed resentment in them.

Go slow. Falling in the right kind of love is worth the wait, while needless heartbreak is far from being of any surmisable value.

Take risks only when you are certain they are worth taking. You are too precious to give your heart to anyone who will be reckless.